A Goose and A Gander: Let’s talk about sex… and dating, and relationships, and everything in between!

By Nick Anstett and Kaitlyn Fowler
Elm Staff Writers

Nick says…Thanks to decades of raunchy college comedies, sex is now one of the most expected and prominent parts of higher education. As a guy who attended four years of an all-male high school, I can certainly sympathize with Washington College students, freshmen or otherwise, that are eager to jump into the dating pool. As fun and freeing as college relationships and sex may seem at first, it comes with its own set of complications.

It’s a Friday night. You’re really hitting it off with that guy or girl that’s been catching your eye all week. You leave your typical hang out and decide to head back to your dorm for a little privacy. That is until your roommate, coming back from a late night practice unwittingly opens the door hoping to get some much needed rest and finds you in the middle of well…you know. Everyone involved is mortified and maybe in the need of a little brain bleach.

It’s easy to forget sometimes that in college we share our living space with another person who, friend or not, is important to keep in mind. How to tackle this problem has been an issue for college students for…probably as long as college’s has been a thing.

Despite what you may think, the old sock on the door knob technique is not as witty or subtle as you might think. Not only does this not give your roommate proper notice, but it also broadcasts to any passersby of what is occurring inside. It makes you look like a real class act, let me tell ya. In most situations, a simple text in advance asking for the room for an hour or so is more than enough to avoid awkward walk-ins. I can guarantee you that in most situations your roommate is going to be happy and willing to comply. Just keep your “room reservations” within reason. There’s no quicker way to an unhappy roommate relationship than continuous “sexiling.”

If you and your partner really want to be gett it on pretty regularly, a simple rotation of rooms could work wonders. The pressure should never always be on one side and, hey, a change of scenery may be fun.

Kaitlyn says… It’s a new school year, and for many students, that means some new romantic prospect. But with most romantic prospects or potential flings, there is a third party-the roommate. Whether it’s yours or your partner’s, there are some general guidelines that should be followed. Yes, love may be in the air for you, but that doesn’t mean your roommate has to deal with it as well. Lay down some ground rules with your roommate. Come up with a system that prevents all parties from scarring. With that in mind, don’t abuse the system you have created. No roommate wants to be constantly forced from their room for one reason or another. If your roommate comes home every day to find the door locked, they aren’t going to be too happy about it in the long run. Remember that you are sharing a room. Your roommate is being generous enough to sacrifice their space to you for a while so you can have your privacy.

To be completely honest, if you are with your lover so much, you’re going to end up with less friends. Be sure to learn how to balance all of your time between your many priorities. Designate time to your classes, friends, lover, and your roomie. You would be surprised at how much easier life is when you take everyone into consideration. You don’t want to live with a roommate who is angry with you, or who suddenly decides to stop being okay with giving you the room for a couple hours. So be courteous to all roommates involved in your love life. A little courtesy goes a long way.


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