If there was anything I'd learned, it's that the man never chooses the woman. All he can do is give her an opportunity to choose him. - Neil Strauss, writer
The Game is simple. Man wants sex. Woman has the sex but doesn't want to feel like a whore for giving it out. She demands an exclusive relationship in return for the sex. Man is tired of masturbating and gives in. Marriage. Reproduction. Repeat.
That simple cycle has kept humanity in style for thousands of years. Naturally there are variations and exceptions, but the routine remains the same.
A relationship is man's natural enemy and it's easy to see why. Males are taught growing up that success is measured in sexual partners, a HUGE...bank account, and relationship freedom.
Women aren't the enemy; they're just the other team. No matter how progressive our society may be, the lesson is still there: find a man who will be faithful to you and settle down to make babies. If he's not faithful, take him for everything he's worth. Women are aware of their sexuality and use it to get what they want - security.
These rules, however, are outdated. Women want sex just as much as men, but society has repressed this basic desire through social structures benefiting those committed individuals in a relationship (Sam's Club isn't for single people).
It used to be (and perhaps is still taught) that you wait until marriage to have sex. Yes, but back then if you survived into your forties you were the oldest person in the village.
Today people are living longer, healthier, sexier lives. Men's magazines like Maxim are recommending men hold out until they reach thirty-five years old to marry. College relationships handicap that goal.
I commend those of my peers with enough strength to enter into the real world retaining their relationship. Careers, rent, and location tend to take the focus off the bountiful "us" time you once had in college. On the other hand, college is no place to have a relationship at all.
Prior to college, most students were cutting their teeth on the dating game and it went well for one major reason. The time they were together was limited to hallway locker interaction, lunch, and the occasional class. Once the bell rang, they met on their own terms recognizing the distinction between dating and school.
There is no such boundary on a college campus where couples live in sight of each other. Flexible scheduling and free time allows for the couple to share meals, walks, and parent-free bedroom time. The death of most relationships comes at a time when one must defend their own privacy and feel guilty for spending time alone.
My advice if you dare to dabble in dating: give her the gift of missing you. You must draw the line between "us" time and "me" time. Text messages, instant messages, e-mails, and phone calls need restrictions, and if you can't remember the last time you slept in your own bed it's already too late.
To keep a relationship alive, each should exist as a separate entity. Remember that Captain Planet didn't die when the Planeteers weren't together, they were able to each have their own thing, and when combined had something better.
And that's what a relationship should be. To be a part of one, you shouldn't lose yourself, but find something you couldn't find on your own.
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